For Men Who Have Difficulty Ejaculating During Sex
Delayed Ejaculation - The Facts
The fact that a lot of men find it
difficult to reach orgasm during sex - or can't reach orgasm at all - surprises many people.
This situation is known as delayed ejaculation (DE for short).
After all, we tend to think that men are always
ready for sex, and that if there's any problem men are going to
have during lovemaking, it will be coming too quickly. The idea that men
might find it difficult to ejaculate hardly ever occurs to most
These expectations can make it difficult for
men to talk about their struggles with ejaculation And so
they tend to suffer in silence, and often, so do their partners.
The first thing to say, therefore,
is that delayed ejaculation affects about one man in ten - it's common,
even if you don't know why you're experiencing it, there are treatments
available which can help you get back to ejaculating more quickly, more
normally, without ever having to see a sex therapist.
Here's a video which can tell you more about the problem.
Delays in Reaching Orgasm
you've seen and heard the video, please read on below....
course women who are living with men who can't come ejaculate during
sex might feel upset about it.
For one thing, a woman might feel her man
isn't able to ejaculate because she isn't attractive enough to turn him
on, to get him aroused, sufficiently to ejaculate. (And sometimes this
is true - although, as we shall see, it may not be her fault!)
And if a woman wants to conceive a baby, she's likely to be really upset if her man
can't ejaculate during lovemaking.
Yet strangely enough this is a situation many people accept in their
relationship for years before they decide to do anything about it and
it's often the woman's desire to have a child which makes the man take
But whether or not that's the case for you, you're undoubtedly here
because you want to know more about this seemingly strange problem which
so many face you want to know why you can't ejaculate during
lovemaking, even if you can during masturbation, and you probably want a
In fact, if you want to see the treatment program
right now without reading any more in this page,
just click here.
So Exactly What Is Delayed
To start with, this condition is well known among sex therapists. It's
been called ejaculatory incompetence, retarded ejaculation and male
Quite simply it means a man can't ejaculate
during lovemaking, or that he can only do so after a long, long time.
Usually he can masturbate to orgasm easily enough.
It's certainly not talked about much among
the general public, although the internet has a lot of information about it.
In essence, though, if you're suffering because of it, you can take
comfort in the fact that you're not alone, the problem is quite normal,
it's certainly common, and there are solutions available.
Get a powerful self-help
treatment program in the top of the right hand column of this page -
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Satisfying, normal, happy sex is
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Now, lets have a definition.
Definition Of Slow Male Ejaculation
Well, we can define delayed ejaculation in
terms of its symptoms: a long time between penetration and
ejaculation during lovemaking, or no ejaculation at all. And perhaps
some difficulty reaching orgasm and ejaculating during masturbation as
well, although this isn't always the case.
But of course some men find long-lasting lovemaking enjoyable and
natural, and aren't the least bit concerned about it.
Which means that it's helpful if we can
put some kind of timeframe on this! There isn't any agreed timeframe,
but I'd say that if a man can make love for thirty minutes' of continual
thrusting without ejaculating, then you could probably say he's
experiencing some difficulty with ejaculation.
In any event, the point is that men who
have this issue in their lives know only too well there's something not
working for them, and they want a cure, so in a way a definition is
irrelevant what more important is finding a way in which a man can
make love with complete control over the time when he ejaculates.
And in this context it's interesting to
reflect that most men who have difficulty ejaculating still feel they
have decent levels of sexual desire and a good erection. How do these
things all fit together?
We'll look more at the psychological and
physical issues which can cause a man to have difficulty ejaculating on
other pages of this website, but broadly speaking there's going to be
either some kind of emotional challenge, issue, or problem around
sex, intimacy, or women, or there's going to be a physical cause like
Over the years, many different suggestions have been put forward about
how these issues can be dealt with. For example, sex therapists often
seem to suggest that only by analyzing the deep unconscious issues
around sex can a man resolve a man's ejaculation problems.
isn't my experience. What I've found is that treating the symptoms,
offering a way to get round the blockage on ejaculation, can "bypass"
the issues which might be playing into this at an unconscious level.
And once a man has ejaculated
successfully, he often finds it's easy to go on doing so in the future.
That way you can have a happy
woman in your life - and you'll both be sexually fulfilled.
Something important to keep in mind is the
fact that the right treatment approach differs from man to man.
Some men might not be interested in
exploring the historical issues which have set up their difficulties and
slowness in reaching orgasm.
They might just want some tricks and
techniques which will allow them to come easily during intercourse.
Other men might be fascinated by learning
more about their expectations of sex, the ease with which they can
establish an intimate relationship with a woman, and the dynamics that
play out in the interpersonal relationship between two sexual partners.
It's important to realize you don't have to
look at your "deepest" issues to find a way of ejaculating quickly,
although you can do that alongside my treatment program if you want.
And in fact the treatment program on
this website, judging by the feedback I receive, is successful for
around 96% of men who try it - provided they really want to overcome
their delayed, slow or non-existent ejaculation.
You can see a link to it in the
top right hand corner of this page.
This is a site
designed for the effective treatment of male ejaculatory
disorder at home using the methods of treatment used by
professional sexual psychotherapists. The cost of this site is
about 2% of the cost of a course of treatment with a sex
therapist - and the treatments work just as well!